Looking at yourself through the eyes of others

 I've been insecure for as long as I can remember myself.

Insecure about my appearance, about the things I create, about others (if they like me or not).

I'm sure you've heard this story before. You might have heard it inside your personal thoughts as well.

Insecurity: the thought of doubt, these thoughts that make you think that you're inferior than others.

Insecurity is a kind of fear.

Insecurity can hold you back sometimes. Can stop you from following a dream or expressing how you feel to someone. 

I know all these well enough.

But sometimes....magic happens!

And it happens when you start looking at yourself through the eyes of others.
A comment coming from someone outside yourself can make the difference, help you see things you couldn't notice when looking in the mirror, gives you a break from your own point of view, gives you a new perspective on things.

Magic happened for me when I started showing more of my art to others and the first positive comments came. For example, people were looking at my drawings (which I was looking at for years wondering if they're even considered art) and were commenting on how I manage to draw so flawless lines. Positive comments about one of the first songs I wrote were made (about the melody and the lyrics) too. These things might seem meaningless to some, but to me were the first signs that I must be good after all....

Lately, I try to work on my insecurities about my appearance and have started talking to a few close friends about them. And it wasn't until today, when a friend made such comments when I told her about how I really feel about the way I look, that I started thinking that I might have been looking at myself the wrong way for a long time..... 

Sometimes it takes only a fresh pair of eyes (and definitely not yours) to look at the reflection in the mirror in a more objective way...